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Kouzes and Posner (2010) asked employees to describe the best and worst managers they ever had. With regard to the best, people said Integrity, good judgment, competent in their job, and the ability to explain why a team is doing what it is doing and why it matters (vision). Sounds like your previous manager checked all the boxes. I'd add one more to this list based on my experience - having a 'bring you along' manager who not only sets high-standards and pushes you to reach them, but is the one standing behind you doing the pushing, or standing over you lending a hand to pull you up when you fall down.

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Apr 14Liked by Ryan Peterman

Hi Ryan, great article.

Just wanted to understand your perspective over how to choose a great manager? As you mentioned, it’s quite important to have a good manager but the base of it gets decided on what team and company you get to join. A lot of young engineers like myself, fail to access thing. Any tips on what to ask and access while choosing your manager, team and company. Thanks in advance!

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Apr 13Liked by Ryan Peterman

Nice article. I don’t mean to be mean or to excuse the manager here but:

> I had a friend who never had a clear picture of what he needed to do to get to Senior (IC5) at Meta. He was strung along for years without clear guidance…

I have a hard time imagining that one couldn’t find clear guidance about progression at Meta of all places. You want your manager to be a big part of this, of course, but what was stopping him from finding this information himself? I don’t even work there and imagine I’d be able to find out what the desirable traits and outcomes would be for that level. Are we not leaning (at least a little) too heavily on any one manager here?

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Apr 12Liked by Ryan Peterman

Thanks much 👍

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Sometimes managers are tentative with clarity and transparency because not everyone receives feedback with the same self-awareness and vigor as you do. Recognize that you had a role to play in that exceptional manager's relationship with you.

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Thanks for writing this article, Ryan!

Out of curiosity, if you were in your friend’s shoes where your manager wasn’t giving you clear communication, what would you do?

(I appreciate you mentioned in the article that you have never been in this situation, but it would be nice to get this insight because how your manager behaves is largely out of your control, and you wouldn’t want to waste years being strung along like your friend)

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